IF YOU WANT TO BE CONTENT, CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE
PSYCHOLOGICAL SCARS BY ZUBEDA AKHTER
Article from Greater Kashmir
Managing life and the issues of life is not an easy job. Our autonomic nervous system is mobilized to help us while dealing with the interpersonal stresses we encounter. There has to be a balance between the Body, Mind and Spirit.
The physical scars we manage by dressing them up and taking proper medicine. But what about psychological and emotional scars! Can we heal them? Yes, forgive those who hurt you May be the person who keeps on hurting you has a desire to disturb you. When you forgive, you save yourself from him. This way you are mentally free.
The ability to live peacefully and happily is in your own hands. If you want to be content, change your attitude.
When we become angry, we want to take revenge. But remember what our prophet has advised us; “It is a matter of great reward to control one’s anger.” ‘Who leashes his tongue, Allah will keep his secrets concealed and who controls his anger, Allah will withhold his punishment on the resurrection day.
“Remember he who angers you conquers you. What ever begun in anger, ends in shame.”
When you start working on the formula of forgiving, you may be unhappy and sad. But when you experience control over your own self, you will enjoy forgiving. Remember, relax more and react less.
Is forgiveness a sign of shame, cowardice, weakness or capitulation? No. Forgiveness is not about letting the other person off. When you forgive you become more empowered, and reclaim more power. It has been proved that most of the illnesses are psychosomatic, the result of interaction between negative emotions and our body. Intense emotional stress, traumatic event or violent behavior when continuously tolerated can lead to many diseases. It is a known fact that anger can send our blood pressure skyrocketing. Prolonged anger can give us essential hypertension, a form of chronic blood pressure which has no apparent cause. After releasing anger, blood pressure drops dramatically. Number of psychosomatic diseases have no cure - like hypertension, diabetes, migraine, bronchial asthma etc. Better keep your anxiety levels low and go on forgiving others, so that you pass a cheerful and pleasant life.
Depression is the world’s second most common illness. While dealing with anger and going on forgiving people we must know the healthy ways of coping with anger too. Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those very things or which you are angry and grieved.
The immediate cure for anger is to delay. Think may be it is an ordinary misunderstanding. Do not act imediately.Think my anger is short lived and a temporary madness. This way you can conquer your anger. Avoid all negative feelings and expressions. Avoid all confrontations with other person. The other person may or may not know that you have forgiven her or him. Forgiveness is a continuous process like patience. Once you know the power of forgiveness, you will feel happier, fresh, cheerful, concerned and moreover you will be having to more internal peace. This is also a fact that we cannot forget the hurt from others, but we can heal our psychological scars. Handle your all the relations with care, and create your own methods of releasing the anger. Preserve your anger for a suitable time when you can use it for a right purpose.
The degree of ones’ emotions varies inversely with ones’ knowledge of facts; the less you know the hotter you get says Bernard Russell. Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned, counsels Buddha.
Zubeda Akhter is D.N. S. (SKIMS)
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